    
Save Your Marriage - 7 Tips That Will
Guarantee A Successful Marriage in 2010
Every year we tell ourselves we
are going to work on our marriage, that things are
going to be better this year and you are willing to do anything to save
your marriage.
However, as the New Year feeling wears off we find
ourselves doing the same things, treating each other the same
way, and experiencing the same troubles.
Well, we have come up with seven tips that can
help you save your marriage and have a successful 2010. The only catch to it working
for you is ensuring that every three months you make a
commitment to go them over to ensure that you are remaining on
the right path.
Be
Willing to Start Over
A new year is filled with new opportunities. Your marriage is
one year older, you are one year older and you should be one
year wiser. Some couples just need to decide to put the past
behind them and get a new beginning.
I do not know which couple has never
experienced difficult times in their marriage. However, the
difference with those marriages that succeed and those that fail
is a decision to turn the page; to erase all the hurts and
mistakes. Doing this will not be easy, but it is essential if
you want save your marriage and have a great year.
Become
Goal Oriented
Set yourself specific goals for this year. But before doing so
take some time and discuss the future with your spouse. You do
not want to know that both of you want to achieve opposing
things that will cause discord in the future.
Be
Willing To Grow
Every year we should be growing in our maturity, love for each
other and wisdom. You cannot carry the same bad habits you had
in 2009, especially if they contributed to a troubled marriage.
You may need to stop: drinking, nagging, bickering, fighting,
cursing, lying, stealing, cheating, getting upset so easily,
being unreliable and uncommunicative.
You may need to make your own list of areas
you need to grow in or things you need to stop doing. Every
thing is a decision away. What will be your decision? Are you
really serious about saving you marriage, about being a better
spouse in 2010?
Become
a Good Listener
Has your spouse ever complained that
you do not listen to them? Well, chances are it could be true.
Decide to become a better listener in 2010.
If you have been struggling with this for
quite a while, then maybe you need to get some books or audios
that can help you. I think most people do not change because
they accept certain things as a part of their character, not
knowing that they determine their character.
Be
Willing to Enjoy Life
Ecclesiastes chapter six and verse seven tells us that, "All
man's efforts are for his mouth, yet his appetite is never
satisfied".
I totally agree with this passage because no
matter how hard we work to provide for our families, we will
never be fully satisfied. We may tell ourselves that things will
be better when we are debt free, own our own home or buy a new
car. But sooner or later when we will become accustomed to what
we have, we will be longing for more.
My recommendation to you is enjoy what you
already have. Have fun with your family. Decide to take that
family vacation you have been putting off, decide to go on that
cruise with your spouse for your next anniversary, spend more
time at home with your family and cut back on the time you spend
at work. I know that times are difficult, but if you are
determined to make it happen, it will happen.
Become
More Spiritual
You may not be a spiritual individual and you have noticed that
your values have been sliding. That you compromise on issues
that you once held dear. Decide that this year you will become a
more spiritual being.
Choose to take the right path over the path
that has been leading you to no where. Spend time imparting good
moral values to your children. Stop being one of those parents
who say, "Do what I say but do not do what I do".
Be the Best Spouse that You can be
It is time that you stop settling for less. We all have it in us
to be a better spouse.
For 2009, be unwavering and committed that no matter what
happens your marriage will be the best it has been in years,
because you were willing to be a better wife or a better
husband.
Finally, I want you to take your spouse along
with you for this exciting journey. If both of you really want
to save your marriage and are dedicated
to this plan, you will stand a better chance of
succeeding.
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