    
Marriage Counseling - 4 Must Have
Qualities that can Help Save Your Marriage
Over the years we have counseled many couples
who could have solved many of their problems by themselves.
All they needed to do was to focus on themselves,
that is, some key qualities that can make a big difference in
their marriage.
Too often couples spend wasted time focusing
on their spouse, what they need to change.
so, consider the things we are about to share
with you as a counseling session with us,
However, it does not come with a price.
The catch however, is that you will need to
cultivate these qualities. Trust us, if you decide to adopt at
least two of these qualities you will see improvements in your
marriage. Some of them may not come natural but with constant
practice, they can become a part of you.
Be
Willing To Forgive
Do not allow a stubborn and vindictive nature to put a rift
between you and your spouse. No one who is unwilling to forgive
can truly give their heart to another.
Ensure that you are dealing with issues as
they arise and make certain that a repentant spouse does not
have to live in guilt and shame. Do not constantly bring up
their past mistakes. Decide to forgive and move on.
Be
Dependable
In a successful marriage both partners have distinct roles and
responsibilities. Everything cannot be left up to one
individual. However, there are some spouses who are utterly
unreliable and left up to them their marriage would fall apart
within the first year.
The questions you need to ask yourself are:
Can my spouse have full confidence that I will do what I have
promised? Do they have to constantly remind me to pay the bills,
bathe the dog, fix a particular thing around the house? etc.
It doesn't matter what your other strengths
are, many spouses translate an unreliable partner as someone who
is unloving, self-interested and uncaring.
Husbands, you could take your wife roses three
times per week, but if you continue to forget special occasions
(e.g. your anniversary and her birthday) to her, the roses don't
count.
Wives, you could have sex with your husband
three times per day, but if you constantly forget when it is
your time to pick up the kids and he has to do it, the sex won't
count.
Be
Honest
A marriage that is built on deceit and blatant lying has no
chance of surviving. If you have a tendency of covering up the
truth, you are only destroying the fabric of your marriage.
Ensure that you are always honest about:
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Your Finances - Do you have secret bank accounts or
constantly purchase secret items?
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Your struggles with the opposite Sex
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Your attraction to your spouse - If you feel they are not
taking care of themselves, find a tactful way to let them
know and both of you come up with a solution. Maybe it is
not about them but really about you
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Your fears, dreams and aspirations
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Your expectations
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Your Addictions
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Emotional affairs
After being honest about the above, you may be
surprised that your spouse shares some of your struggles and
concerns but was afraid to share them with you. Never
underestimate the power of honesty.
Be
Loving
Does someone really have to be told to be loving? Yes.
Especially after many years of
marriage.
There is a story of a wife who asked her
husband why it was that he didn't tell her that he loved her.
His response was, "Honey, if I stopped loving you I will tell
you". He didn't see a need to constantly tell his wife he loved
her.
Even if your love for your spouse has not
changed he or she needs constant reassurance. The simple phrase,
"I Love You" takes a second to say but makes an everlasting
impact. Use it more often. If you are not like this by nature,
then train yourself.
Decide that you will work on these qualities
today.
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