Using
Your Tongue as a Weapon
Compared to most men, women seem to have the gift of converting
words to weapons. We know exactly what to say to pierce our
husbands and cause them to feel hurt or guilty about something
they did or said. However, in the same way that a weapon can
kill, your words can also kill your marriage.
Do you deliberately use disrespectful words to your
husband?
Do you put him down in front of your girlfriends?
Do you use curse words when having an argument?
Do you use words to get him to shut up so that you can
have your own way?
Proverbs chapter twenty one and verse nineteen
tells us that, "better to live in a desert than with a
quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife". I think this passage is so
true for many husbands. They would prefer to be uncomfortable
somewhere else than to be around you.
Take some time to analyze your marriage to
ensure that this is not happening in your marriage.
Using
Your Tongue to Push Away Your Husband
Many husbands become unresponsive and uncommunicative because
they are afraid of what will come out of their spouse's mouth if
they are to have a conversation with them.
So instead of talking to their wives about issues
that concern them, they find other women.
Sadly but true these relationships can lead to
emotional affairs which in many cases also lead to
physical
affairs.
Another way of pushing away your husband is by
nagging him. Some wives have mastered the art of nagging in
order to get their own way. But although they get their own way
today, this is causing resentment on their husbands' part and
eventually this can lead to a lack of love, affection and
intimacy.
Using
Your Tongue to Heal Your Marriage
In order to heal your marriage you may need to bite your tongue
at times. Biting your tongue means to take control of it, being
careful of what you say. However, for some wives who have no
self control, you may need to literally bite it in order to stop
you from talking without thinking.
Let us now look at some positive ways to use
your tongue to heal your marriage, especially if you have been
using it as a weapon or to push away your husband.
Use it to show your husband much love and affection
Use it to encourage and build him up
Use it to cultivate passion and romance in your marriage
Use it to keep your husband faithful
Use it to have a peaceful marriage
